The sleepy nurse and the thirsty boyfriend
I am a nurse. I work long 12-hour shifts everyday, during which I am on my feet. My job is exhausting and it’s really important for me to get a good night’s sleep. My boyfriend on other hand is not so concerned with sleep. He has a job, but it’s the kind where you sit at a desk and play on facebook all day, and have lots of energy to go out late on work nights. I don’t mind him going out late with his friends but I don’t sleep well when I am waiting for him to come home all night. Lately he has been getting home around 2:00 a.m., drunk and loud. He always wakes me up when he comes in, and I have a hard time falling back to sleep. Then I wake up at 6 am to go to work and his drunk ass is still fast asleep while I am exhausted. Last night I had enough of the sleepless nights and the drunken boyfriend so before I went to bed I made him a lovely little bed out of our couch, with blankets and pillows and even put a glass of water out with some Tylenol. I left a note on the bedroom door that said, “Honey, I’m exhausted and really need a good night’s sleep. This door is locked. I love you” Well. He hated my note and the sweet bed I made him and when he got home he pounded on the door ferociously and was super angry. Telling me he pays for rent in our apartment too, it’s his bed too, he needs to sleep in his bed etc. Why is he the angry one? I’m furious about this selfish behavior! -Robyn 30
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Tags: apartment, boyfriend, drinking, loud, nurse
Ugh, it’s bad enough to live with a brute to whom you’re married . I voted not mad at all since you just took your final exam in ‘Is it time to be single again?’ And you know that great feeling after all the exams are over? Let’s just hope you passed. As the lady in the hair salon said, “Anybody can have a man to be in a relationship with. But sometimes that’s the problem.”
Obviously, you should be pissed. But, I need you to reel out this story a little more. I’ve heard tell that people aren’t at their most rational when they’re roaring drunk. So, I want to know what he was like the next evening/night when you were both home from work. Was he contrite? Did he see the logic behind your nice and sensible gesture and realize maybe that’s the good compromise for next time? How comfortable is your couch? If he continues to act like a selfish jackass you should dump him (even though you’re old and it’s probably scary because you don’t want to die alone, but trust me). Then you’ll get your sleep and he can bro down hard 24/7, duder.