His good news is her bad news…
I’ve been dating this guy for a couple of months. Nothing too serious yet, but we’ve been spending more and more time together and lately it has been feeling like it could be something real. But the other night he gave me reason to believe we are not on the same page about this… the other day he told me he was going out to San Fran for a few days (we live in Chicago). When I asked him why he told me he had gotten a job interview and proceeded to tell me how excited he was about it and how he thinks he has a good shot at it. Never once acknowledging the fact that this might upset me. I know we’re not in a position where he would consult me about his life decisions or not take a job because of me… but I do think that I deserve a little more consideration and tact! Like he could have at least delivered the news in a way that felt like he was letting me know because I deserve to know instead of just going off about how great it would be as if there was nothing and nobody in Chicago that he would possibly miss. Seriously. I feel like he was totally inconsiderate and am pissed at him. This is just basic manners… right? Cassie, 27.
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Tags: dating, long distance, moving, new job
Daaaamn, Denzel. Who pissed in your metrosexual cheerios?
Cassie, this does kinda suck. But you are jumping the gun a bit. He is only going for an interview, and he is telling you. So you at least have some warning that you might have to deal with his leaving. But until he gets an offer, a ‘talk’ isn’t needed. There’s no reason to gently tell you he’s going on an interview. Try to be genuinely happy for him (since he is obv really excited about the job), bc if you are whiny or bitchy it will certainly be over.
New job in a great city and ditching someone who describes things as “real,” this guy’s star is on the rise! But, fear not, Cassie, Chicago is also a great city, with plenty of “real” people out there looking for love (the “real” kind).